Balls in the air. One, two, three. Juggle!

I was on holiday last week.  We didn’t go away we just enjoyed a week at home.  Doing the things we as a family do.  It was a very relaxing laughter filled week.  I don’t know about you but I never want holidays to end.  I get really down at the end of each and every holiday especially at the end of the school holidays I like having us all at home!  I must admit I was relieved to see on Sunday night  that I wasn’t alone when I read a tweet from a family friend on Twitter who expressed a similar sentiment.  But I wasn’t facing a week like him of going back to normal instead I was about to embark on the week of the mega juggle.

This is distinguished from the daily routine which is a juggle but the mega juggle is when I work, look after the kids and also carry out the daily chores of life so that the kids get time to enjoy their holiday.  I am lucky as a self-employed person I no longer have to adhere to the “working nine to five tune.”  That said though I do need to work but I can do it at times that suit me allowing me to spend time with the kids and giving the kids time at home!  But it does mean that you seem to have fewer hours in the day than usual.  I had cleared the decks as it were before finishing up for my holiday with the view of keeping work to the minimum during my juggle week.  But that said I was still looking at an unexpected urgent project that needed progressed during the week, a #scotlandhour meeting in Edinburgh and embarking on my great new adventure starting a creative writing course.  Plus the work I had already allocated for action.  When you look at it at the beginning of the week it looks daunting especially combined with daily football, golf and other activities that the kids were committed to.  And a house that always seems to be messier when we are all in the house.  So how do you manage?

Well this is really a lesson to myself so that the next time I am about to start a mega juggle I remember it can be done.  So here are my tips for the mega juggle.

1. Allocate Time and be Strict

It is important to work out the best times to work and allocate that as your work times.  For me I work best in the morning and although I would love to stay in bed I am able to get up early and start working.  Late night working is not and has never been me.  So I allocate working time as early morning plus some hours late pm when I also have time to work.  The key here is not allocating the time but making sure that you do it!  So as the alarm goes off actually getting up not turning over or as I love to do getting a coffee and going back to bed with a good book!  This means you have time to do work but as I say the key is to be strict as when the time is gone its gone and it won’t come back.

2. Make Lists

I am a great list maker for all aspects of my life and operate lists on a daily basis.  Usually I have a daily work list and then at the weekend a household list.  But during the mega juggle I combine the two and at the start of the week allocate tasks to each day depending what we are doing.  So that I can see that I can achieve what I need to during the course of the week.

3. Don’t be Ambitious

It’s easy to think you can take on the world I frequently do and then realise I can’t.  And in recent years I have found that I am far more effective when I am realistic about what I can achieve so making lists that can be achieved is far better than a looooooong list that has no chance and is just quite frankly daunting.  I have to date managed to achieve all the goals set out on the list plus dealt with unexpected tasks that have come along.  Far better than looking at a long list and feeling GUILTY!

4. Don’t feel GUILTY

I am a great one for guilt.  At the start of the week I texted my sister-in-law who also knows about the mega juggle and typed guilty both ways this week work wise and kids!  But stop Fiona Drane just stop there!  A very wise school friend who I have recently via Facebook reconnected with has been really good at getting me not to do this.  And she’s right we are all too good at heaping on guilt trying to achieve what?  Perfection?  Not possible a goal that will always let you down.  So look at it or try to look at it from an outside perspective.

This week I am running my own business.  I am good at what I do.  Did I just say that?  Yes I did because I am.  I can’t do many things but marketing and communication I know it inside out and as importantly I love it!  I have good time management skills and can allocate time to what needs done.  And I have done it!  More importantly I love my kids to bits they have greatly enjoyed their week.  My son has carried out all the activities he wanted to and more beside!  He’s about to play a round of golf with a friend!  Huge excitement.  My daughter who like me is more of a home bird has written and read lots and the two of us have had some great times as we wait for my son’s footie to finnish.   We will bring out the best bits to do in Gala if you have an hour to spare shortly.

We are all too good at heaping on the guilt but as my friend says we shouldn’t.   Look at the three things that makes us smile and hold on to them not the guilt.

So tonight after my writing class I am meeting friends for a drink other mega juggling women as let’s be honest aren’t we all?  And I will raise a glass to juggling even mega juggling.  It’s not easy but it keeps life interesting and keeps us on our toes.

But to finnish.  Words that are far better than mine and express why I do the mega juggle.  The greatly missed Kirsty McColl.  Thank you for the Days.

Thank you for the days
Those endless days, those sacred days you gave me
I’m thinking of the days
I won’t forget a single day believe me

I bless the light
I bless the light that lights on you believe me
And though you’re gone
You’re with me every single day believe me

Days I’ll remember all my life
Days when you can’t see wrong from right
You took my life
But then I knew that very soon you’d leave me
But it’s alright
Now I’m not frightened of this world believe me

I wish today could be tomorrow
The night is long
It just brings sorrow let it wait

Thank you for the days
Those endless days, those sacred days you gave me
I’m thinking of the days
I won’t forget a single day believe me

Days I’ll remember all my life
Days when you can’t see wrong from right
You took my life
But then I knew that very soon you’d leave me
But it’s alright
Now I’m not frightened of this world believe me

Days, thank you for the days
Those endless days, those sacred days you gave me
I’m thinking of the days
I won’t forget a single day believe me

I bless the light
I bless the light that lights on you believe me
And though you’re gone
You’re with me every single day believe me

Days

Thank you for the Days dedicated  to my kids who make the mega juggle worthwhile.

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About fionadranesblog

40 plus mum of two married with a mad cocker spaniel. Along with two colleagues run Bright Light Marketing a rural marketing agency who specialise in getting rural businesss noticed. www.brightlightmarketing.co.uk. Live in St Boswells in the wonderful Scottish Borders. Love books, walking and living life to the full here in the Scottish Borders though its sometimes a juggle!
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